I can’t sacrifice my career for marriage -Nse Ikpe-Etim

A few years back, Nollywood actress, Nse Ikpe-Etim, took a break from acting, to work in the banking. Ikpe-Etim, who is a professional chef, later delved into the fashion industry before made a comeback in Emem Isong’s hit movie, Reloaded.
But nowadays it takes an intelligent script and a thorough filmmaker to entice her away from her home and family, as well her favourite place, the kitchen.
And the latest film script to have engrossed the slender role interpreter is the Rita Dominic/ Mildred Okwo’s satirical comedy flick, The Meeting, in which she plays, Bolarinwa, the high-flying girlfriend of a serving federal minister.
Although she appears in just a few scenes in the film, the actress is quick to correct anyone who thinks that it was an irrelevant role.
“It was not a minor role, I beg to differ because one scene can make or mar a movie and one scene can give you an Oscar or AMAA. So I like to say that every role is increasingly important as long as you are an actor. You can have guest appearances, cameos, lead and supporting roles. My role was a cameo,’’ she says.
As she speaks glowingly about her role in the movie which premieres today, Ikpe-Etim almost immediately switches into character and then in a smattering of Yoruba language saying, “Mo need cash gan just like Bolarinwa, my taste is very high,” bursting into a fit of laughter.
It then becomes almost impossible to decipher when she is actually being serious with the responses and when it is just a tease. But this is quite understandable for the actress who spent her formative years in primary and secondary schools in Jos, Kaduna and Ilorin as she loves to have a good laugh.
The societal pressure on Nollywood spinsters keeps mounting by the day and has been attributed as the reason behind the scandals and divorce tales trailing a number of stars. While there may be a tendency for some persons to take her jovial nature for granted, Ikpe-Etim says she does not take lightly issues that pertain to her still being single having come this far in her career and so naturally puts up a defence.
“The thing is I have stated my thoughts on marriage.It is a good thing but it has to be kept holy. Who says I am being delayed? I do not subscribe to divorce because I am so catholic and I was brought up that way. I am not in a relationship because I won’t have time to make other people happy and make ‘him’ happy. I have chosen who I want to make happy,my fans. It’s very early in my career and I can’t compromise because I can’t feed him. I don’t do trial and error, every man that has been in my life has been for a reason and season and I am sure they are all fine. It is something that you do not out of societal pressure, not because your parents want you to do it but because you are ready and you have found the one person that you cannot dare to live without,” she explains.
Just like many other thespians who have found solace in Nollywood, Ikpe-Etim, who studied Theatre- Arts at the University of Calabar, says she misses the adrenalin rush that comes with being on stage.
“My background in theatre has helped in a way because you know what you want. More so theatre does not teach you acting for film. Acting for film, is a different thing from being on stage. They are two different ball games. You have to be lucky that the camera loves you and whatever it is, you can elicit any sort of feelings from your viewers. Theatre is exhilarating. It is almost orgasmic.”
PUNCH NG

Why More Students May Be Killed!

 

LASU: Why More Students May Be Killed!

Not a few Nigerians were jolted by the news of the murder of a fast rising hip hop artiste, Damola Olaniyan aka Damouche at the gate of the Lagos State University, Ojo on Thursday. Damouche was shot twice in the head, apparently from a high caliber weapon and at close range too.
Though the police have intervened and suspects have been arrested, there are fears that the war might just have started. Street Journal’s findings revealed that the cause of the shooting was a clash between members of the Black Axe and Buccaneers confraternities.
Some sources on campus also disclosed that members of the Supreme Eiye Confraternity had issues with the other two groups making it difficult for the uninitiated to “know who is killing who”. In what appeared to be a reprisal attack, another undergraduate of the institution who was simply identified as Kabiru was killed late on Sunday around Abeokuta Street in Okokomaiko, bu suspected members of the Buccaneers Confraternity. Some students were later arrested at a party in Ishashi, Okokomaiko.
Street Journal’s findings revealed that more blood may still flow because the supremacy battle between the cult groups has it has its root in the indoctrination members are given in their various groups. As such the supremacy battle may continue for a while. Findings reveal that one of the tenets in the creed of the Neo Black Movement, otherwise known as Black Axe is “forgiveness is a sin”.
In other words, any insult or injustice meted out to the brotherhood or any of its members must be avenged without delay or any option of forgiveness. The Buccaneers on the other hand are known to be firm believers in their “no price, no pay” doctrine. Their simply rule is that whoever comes looking for their trouble must be given trouble in full measure.
A student disclosed to Street Journal that ss it stands now, “the scores currently sand at 1-1 which is not a good way to end a game, everybody is afraid because more attacks will definitely happen and at times, even the innocent can get hurt”.

I Was Raped By My Father, Uncle, Teacher And School Mates”

I have been raped at various times by my father, uncle and our driver. My primary six teacher also had his fill of me.
While in secondary school, two boys ganged raped me in the classroom. Although all of them including my father, always came back to plead for my forgiveness after raping me, but such pleas don’t erase what they did to me. They all did it once. Till date, I avoid my father like a plague. He too is always very uncomfortable around me just like my uncle who nobody has seen since he came to plead with me. He stays in Jos and has refused to come home.
Now I am in my 300 level and the only way I enjoy sex is for a man to be very rough with me. This worked for me until recently when I fell in love with my boyfriend.
Honestly, love is happening to me for the first time since I became an adult. All my life, it has been animalistic urge; have sex and walk away from it all before it becomes too complex.
I have never had any serious relationship in my entire life because I see men as wicked, opportunists and animals.
Given what I feel for my boyfriend, I know I am very much in love with him but at times when I remember all the abuses I went through I wonder if this relationship is worth it.
At times too, when I recount the many times I was raped by my father and all the other men, I wonder why me. Is there something about me that made all these men rape me? Once I went to a church where the pastor called me out of the congregation and told me to see him after service. When I saw him after service, as if looking into the mirror he told me everything about my life. since I haven’t told anybody the story of my life, I knew he was real.
He told me it was done by my grandmother to destroy my life because she never approved of my father marrying my mother. He said she put an evil mark on me to instigate men to violating me at will.
He conducted three days deliverance sessions for me. It was after that I met my boyfriend. Despite the signals I give him, he has resisted making love to me. He expresses the desire to marry me and has taken the steps of introducing me to his parents. He graduated three years ago and works with the energy sector. Although he has an idea of all that happened to me, I haven’t given him the entire details of the many men who raped me. Also, it is proper to tell him about my father since he has met with him when he came with parents and extended family members for a mini introduction.
Deep down, I have this urge to come clean with the story of my past. Another thing is how to respond to his love making when we eventually make love. Would it be proper to ask him to be violent with me as is my custom?
Sometimes too, all the old hatred I have for men resurfaces. At such times, I keep away from him but it would be difficult to do once we are married. I am just confused about it all and what to do?

My Mother Suggested I Become A Prostitute” -Singer, Kefee

In a recent live TV interview, Nigerian gospel artist Kefee Obareki popularly called Kefee who revealed she had a tough upbringing confessed how her mother suggested she become a prostitute to make ends meet.
The branama singer said she had to secretly leave the village where she was born for Lagos in search of a better life by ignoring her mom’s suggestion.
All calls made to Kefee’s line proved abortive as she allegedly ignored them

DEAD BODIES IN OWERRI

Awful: 10 dead bodies found in Owerri burrow pit, “No comment” – Police

 

About ten unknown human bodies that are in varying stages of decomposition have been spotted in a burrow pit at Mgbirichi, along the ever busy Owerri-Port Harcourt federal highway.
Vanguard learnt that the shocking discovery was made a group of women, who were on their way to their farm, suddenly discovered two dead bodies that were dumped in the pit.
Scared by the shocking finding, the hapless women rushed back home to announce the development to their fellow villagers.
Confirming this to Vanguard, one of the villagers who spoke on strict grounds of anonymity, said “the community leaders quickly reported the ugly incident to the Divisional Police Headquarters, Umuagwo”.
Continuing, the villager recalled that after seeing things for themselves, including the seemingly fresh bodies and other decaying human parts littered inside the burrow pit, the two fresh bodies were buried in the place.
“Health workers under the watchful eyes of the visiting policemen later buried the two fresh bodies in the burrow pit, while the other decayed human parts, including bones which littered the place, were not attended to”, the villager said.
The new Police Public Relations Officer, Joy Elemoko, a deputy superintendent of police, DSP, could not comment on the issue because she was not able to get across to the Divisional Police Office, DPO, in charge of the area.